Preparing you and your family for the return of your incarcerated loved one can be beneficial to your loved one’s
reentry … and your family’s adjustment. Here are eight ways to prepare for a loved one’s reentry.
1. UNDERSTAND THEIR PROBATION AND PAROLE
If possible, the best way to help your loved one comply with their restrictions is to develop a relationship with their
probation officer and ensure that you know the details of their parole.
2. SAVE MONEY
If you are able to support your loved one, make it clear that your financial support is short term and conditional on
their efforts to find a job and become financially independent.
3. PLAN FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Both you and your loved one should have an in-person conversation about what your relationship will look like,
including your physical and emotional boundaries.
4. LOOK AHEAD TO FUTURE NEEDS
Consider finding resources that you or your family may need in the future and discuss with your loved one what
resources he or she believes they will need upon release.
5. FIND POTENTIAL SUPPORT GROUPS AND CHURCHES
Having a larger network of friends from church and support groups will provide a source of friendship, stability,
trust, and advice that will help each person in your family get through the tough times together.
6. GET READY FOR YOUR LOVED ONE’S JOB SEARCH
Your loved one will likely have feelings of frustration and anger. Prepare for this, and remind your loved one that all
it takes is one successful interview.
7. TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN
Consider talking with your children about how they feel. Focus on teaching them that when someone does
something wrong, they must face the consequences, forgive themselves, and change for the better.
8. CONSIDER RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING
Talk with your husband or wife about finding a local relationship counselor and prepare a few topics or questions
you would like to explore with your counselor and loved one